It's Official...

Darren and I had our first real fight. Like I'm talking slamming doors, yelling, crying (on my part), and not speaking for like 2 hours. It was pretty awful. Here's the background:

We can't really afford to live in the house that we live in. Between the rent, electricity, water, the new gas bill (that I was under the impression the landlord payed for), and the brand new loan that Darren completely forgot about for the past nine months that we now owe 160 bucks a month for, we don't have any extra money. And it doesn't help that we live like 20 miles away from base and we have only one car, so it's a thirty minute drive to and from base twice a day. A.K.A. it's a bunch of gas that we waste. Granted he makes 2800 a month, but our bills alone are almost 2000. That doesn't leave much fun money left over every month. So I proposed that we probably have to move into base housing temporarily just until we get on our feet.

WELL......

He went ballistic. He doesn't want to live on base, he doesn't want to live anywhere near base, he doesn't like Marines, he doesn't like this, he doesn't like that. It went on for a while until I stopped talking and he walked away. Now, I love him more than pretty much anything, but I really can't stand that he is not willing to live like a normal Lance Corporal that's newly married, and just suck it up and live in base housing just temporarily. He has this really high standard of living that we just cannot do only being married for a month and a half. He expects to live the way his parents live, but I'm not sure he understands that it took his parents 25 years to get to where they're at. My parents are the same way. It took them a really long time to get to where they're at. We will get there eventually. But not right now. I'm not working yet (not by choice I might add), so all we have is his income. Both his parents and my parents had to live in base housing for a little while until they got their finances straight. They did it, and so do we.

So after we had both cooled down, we agreed that I would go by the housing office tomorrow, and fill out the paperwork to get into base housing. Not only can we save money and possibly get our bills paid off, but we can get furniture, and all of the things that we both want. Also, when he deploys in March, I can be surrounded by men and women who are in the exact same position that I will be in. Living where we do right now, I live in the middle of nowhere, with no one around, and no friends. It will be a lot easier on me when he deploys to be in base housing.

I love it when he agrees with me, even if it only took him a fight and three hours later.

Kylie "hoping-to-save-money" Bolling